| Dont comment it unless you read through it , peeps 
I think I seriously hide up myself from this world
But it doesn't mean something bad
I just talk to some key people who I only rely on and trust...
It doesn't mean that I dislike other people. But just, it's not the right time for me to face you all yet. Especially YOU, my dear friend. I hope you know that I'm talking about you. I got tons of your missed calls and msgs. I'm sry that I'm not supposed to hide from you. Sry for being such a bad friend to you :[ I hope you'll understand one day...
"When men and women are able to respect their differences, then love has a chance to grow"
The most frequently expressed complaint women have about men is that men don't listen. The most frequently expressed complaint men have about women is that women are always trying to change men.
Finding Relief Through Talking
When a woman is stressed she instinctively feels a need to talk about her feelings and all the possible problems that are associated with them. When she begins talking she doesn't prioritize the significance of any problem. If she is upset, then she's upset about it all, big and small. She's not immediately concerned with finding solutions to her problems but rather seeks relief by expressing herslf and being understood. By randomly talking about her problems, she becomes less upset.
When women talk about problems, men usually resist. A man assumes she's talking with him about her problems because she's holding him responsible. The more problems, the more he feels blamed. He doesn't realize that she's talking to feel better. A man doesn't know that she will appreciate it if he just listens.
If a woman doesn't feel supported when she's unhappy, then she can never truly be happy. To be genuinely happy requires dipping down into the well to release, heal, and purify the emotions. This is a natural and healthy process. Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished. However, men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed.
Arguments Can Hurt
One of the most difficult challenges in our loving relationships is handling differences and disagreements. Often, when couples disagree, their discussions can turn into arguments and then, without much warning, into battles. Suddenly they stop talking in a loving manner and automatically begin hurting each other : blaming, complaining, accusing, demanding, resenting, and doubting. There will always be disagreements, but we can learn a positive way to resolve them...
The Four F's For Avoiding Hurt
1. Fight
This stance definitely comes from men. When a converssation becomes unloving, men move into an offensive stance. Their motto is "the best defense is a strong offense"
They strike out by blaming, judging, criticizing, and making their partner look wrong. When their partner backs down, they assume they have won, but in truth they have lost.
Intimidation always weakens trust in a relationship
2. Flight
This stance also comes from men. To avoid confrontation, men may retire into their "caves" and never come out. This is like a cold war. They refuse to talk and nothing gets resolved. These men don't like confrontation and would rather lie low and avoid talking about any topics that may casue an argument.
3. Fake
This stance comes from women. To avoid being hurt in a confrontation, many women pretend that there is no problem. She puts a smile on her face and appears to be very agreeable and happy with everything. Over time, however, these women become increasingly resenful. This resentment blocks the natural expression of love.
4. Fold
This stance also comes from women. Rather than argue, woman gives in. She will take the blame and assume responsibility for whatever is upsetting her partner. In the short run she seems t be supportive, but she ends up losing herself.
In each of the above four stances our intention is to protect ourselves from being hurt. Unfortunately, it doesn't work. What works is to identify arguments and stop. Take a time-out to cool off, and then come back and talk again. Practice communicating with increased understanding and respect for the opposite sex, and you will gradually learn to avoid arguments and fights.
" When negative feelings are suppresssed, positive feelings become suppressed as well, and love dies. Take time to share your feelings. "
Love brings up our unresolved feelings:
Angry
Defensive
Demanding
Numb
Irritable
Critical
Healing the past
one day we are feeling loved, and the next day we are suddenly afraid to trust love. The painful memories of being rejected begin to surface when we are faced with trusting our partner's love.
feelings that we could not express in our past may suddenly flood our consciousness when we're safe to feel. Love thaws out our repressed feelings, and gradually these unresolved feelings begin to surface into our relationship. It's as though your unresolved feelings wait until you're feeling loved, and then they come up to be healed.
by understanding how unresolved past feelings periodically surface, we can understand why we become so easily hurt by our partnes. When we are upset, about 90 percent of the upset is related to our past and has nothing to do with what we think is upsetting us. Generally, only about 10 percent of our upset is appropriate to the present experience...
Love is seasonal
We have a lot to look forward to. May continue to grow in love and light
I used to doubt the god, where's my hero? An "angel" prop me up and answered my question. Yea, I think I get the answer now and I've found my hero finally
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